You are missing people. What to do?
Posted on November 13, 2007
Filed Under Around the World, Frame of mind
As some of my readers may know, I intend to leave Romania for a year and go and live in cities around the world. Of course, it sounds good, everybody is envious of me, but there are some issues that may appear, issues that do not seem so important when you are preparing to leave and thinking of things like where to live, how much the rent will be, will you have an internet connection already?
My visit to Antalya helped me find one of the “non-existent issues”: you are missing people. People around me seem to like me (beats me why 
) and I get quite attached to people in a short period of time. Yes, I know, I shouldn’t do that, but this is who I am and I feel good the way I am. More, you have to get attached to people, or else we would be living in small boxes, alone, not in communities.
Before leaving for Antalya, Daniel, the guy that “forced” me into JCI, told me that people may start crying when leaving the World Congress, but I made fun of him (sorry for that, man). I didn’t really believe you can get so attached to the people around you during such short periods of time. But, man, was I wrong. I didn’t really see anybody crying, but now I can understand what he was talking about.
So, what do you do when you realize that you cannot leave a city for the next destination, just because there are people you feel you got attached to? Of course, think not only about being in love (which only takes one glance, doesn’t it? 
) or some summer fling, but about all the friends you might make there. What will happen then?
We live in a global village, we communicate faster than ever before. My best friend from childhood lives in a city 400km from Bucharest, we see each other 2-3 times a year, but I know everything about his family, about his work, I see live images of his newly born boy a.s.o. Still, I would love to be able to stay and talk over a beer and some pizza more than 2-3 times a year.
It is not as bad as it may sound. You still have options: you may decide to stay there longer, you may take the person with you (if you fall in love), you may come back from time to time. Unfortunately, when you will leave, some part of you will remain there and it will follow you a long time.
So, do YOU miss anybody? I would love to hear what you did in similar situations.
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Din acelasi motiv nici eu nu ma pot desparti de Iasi pentu Bucuresti sau alte locuri desi poate din anumite puncte de vedere mi-ar fi mai bine.
English, Adrian, English
Still, I will leave Romania for sometime. Missing people beats not meeting them at all
Well my friend, there are compromises one has to make sometimes. The new friends you will make (and I bet some of them will be among your best ever – at least in my case) while traveling and your way larger vision for life compensates for missing people for a number of months. Contact stefan.palarie123123i-interact.ro (former JCI member in Romania) for a glimpse of what you are after – though don’t do it today, he just became a father 3 hours ago.
Marius, thanks for the comment.
I do believe what you say, I understand that I have to actually accept the feeling in order to know more people and to get a different vision on life
But this doesn’t make it any more easier 
It’s more than 2 years you wrote this post; funny…I have just discovered your blog tonight and I’ve already found 2 posts that made me comment on it and open 2 hard subjects of my present life.
If you still think to go on your life journey….do it but don’t think that you’ll be ready for all not nice things and feelings that will come over you together with this experience.
You’ll always miss your home, friends, town, places, even you are gone be in the most beautiful place on Earth for more than 3 months or trying to make a living, integrate, find a job, a house, learn the language, make new friends, try to build a social life, etc….nothing is gone be like you planed or imagined,……nothing. Maybe it sounds crazy but I am in my second try…..first I went to Germany for almost 1 year from October 2006 to August 2007….and now in The Netherlands for 1 year and 2 months.
Not all the money in the world, not even the new experiences and friends on a strange/ foreign land will help you to feel like home and step over the desperate loneliness feeling and that of missing your natural invoirenment.
It’s like someone is cutting your routs and tries to plant you in a very big nice and expensive ceramic pot with gold…..your routs will not connect with the ground and your soul will get dried, like a plant’s leaves, your flowers will fall down,…you’ll feel like dying slowly in your new beautiful golden cage like a nice plant with the cut routs in an huge beautiful ceramic pot.
And be careful, the way back is not always coming easy, it’s not short and for many times you can’t just live and go back when you want.
One thing I know for sure…the moment you left…..nothing is gone be the same even you get richer or get a better life….you’ll always miss something or someone.
Be careful what you dream/wish because one day it might happen!
“some part of you will remain there and it will follow you a long time” … very well said.
i’m glad you know what it means